Even though we've changed and we're all finding our own place in the world, we all know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we'll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we're not all still friends
At some point in time, we end up at what they call crossroad junctions, in our life. These junctions throuw up a variety of choices and decisions around us. The choices we make mould us into what we are today or what we become tomorrow. We are often at such crossroads in life and unfortunately there is no way to avoid it, avoiding it typically means that we have taken a decision - to avoid !
One such crossroad where we all end up is when all your friends are married, ok not all of them but most of them and suddenly you find that those impromptu / unplanned meetings are no longer happening, the usual sunday hangouts is history and evey plan has to be cross checked since the better half has to be consulted with and you suddenly find that everyone's priorities have changed and you feel grumpy, helpless and wonder what happened to all that we are friends forever shit !
Little do we realize that change (or we do realize but like everyone we resist it) is an inevitable part of life, it is the essence of life and every change does bring about its own discomfort, but though priorities and other change happen, our friends just don't love us any little. They in a way take certain things for granted and one such thing is the fact that we understand and frankly speaking I think we should. We need to appreciate this fact and move on with life because somewhere down the line, we will all have to go through the same thing our friends are going through and our friends, what we are going through.
Adapting to change that comes into their life is not very easy for our friends too, having a new person in their life who's demanding their attention, who's sharing their bed, their bathroom, their room, their personal space and that is not an easy thing to digest. All these things wouldn't have been thought out during courtship, but then even ample thoughts wouldn't have given us an idea on the intensity of the whole situation. The additional responsibilty of one more person in their life takes a longer time to digest, to adapt to. They do and will take some time to cope up with these changes. It is our responsibility to support them during this phase, even if it means just being a silent spectator, even if it means just smiling and saying I understand dude and even if it is going to take them eternity to do adapt to the changes.....after all what are friends for !!
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference
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